May/June Heart of Glastonbury - Magazine - Page 54
Self pleasure, making
love and the art
of slowing down
As men we have been lead to unconsciously
normalise, experiencing sexual energy
through inner tension, friction and speed.
Whether this was in our teenage years, with
a fear and shame of getting caught. And
then a nervous system programmed
towards fear and embarrassment, leading
to anger, craving and shame around our
sexual self. Unfortunately, this tension leads
too our sexual energy either getting stuck in
our base, and then needing an outer
release.
Or takes us out of our body, during the
sexual experience with ourself or another,
and into our Mind. Leading to fantasy or the
need for visual stimulation to create that
excitement and release. However the more
we learn to relax with our experience our
sexual energy, to calm the mind and to relax
the heart. The more this energy can flow
freely through our body more freely without
restriction.
We will find that when we have a more
relaxed experience of our sexual Chi, the
desire
for
excessive
self
pleasure,
fantasising, manipulation of another to get
our needs met. Or any sexual experience
connected with craving and tension, seems
to fall away naturally over time.
Carl Jung along with many other
psychiatrists and psychologists discovered
that what you don’t make conscious controls
you unconsciously. This is the same for our
se**al energy, to make it conscious, and to
release the tension of guilt and shame
around it.
As men this changes all areas of our life and
our own confidence, our attitude towards
our lover, our energy levels, our inner peace
and our self control. Like most internal
alchemy, it’s not really about learning but
unlearning, not adding too but taking away,
not forcing but relaxing, opening and
experiencing.
Abstinence, Celibacy No-fap and releasing ?
This also leads us to becoming more present
lovers, we are less controlled by our
unconscious sexual impulses, which instead
of getting stuck in the body. Flow through us,
coming and going like any thoughts and
emotion.
It’s quite a buzz at the moment within the
well-being community for men to practice
abstinence and celibacy. Many men report
having big breakthroughs when they learn to
harness and take control of their own sexual
nature.
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