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5. What do young people need to know to decide about having sex?
Some young people have the skills and the expectation that they will form a connection with someone before they have sex.
Those young people are more likely to have happier experiences of sex if and when it does happen. Many others’ experiences
of first-time sex were characterised by feelings of pressure, disappointment, regret, and even necessity.14
So, what are some messages about sex that young people may
not be hearing anywhere else?
(These ‘messages’ are by way of background music that you
might want to choose from and sing in the background — hey,
it’s your job to be annoying!)
There are lots of different
ways to enjoy sexual
feelings.
There are a lot of messages that suggest that everyone is
having sex. This is not true. By the end of Year 12, 50% of
students will have had sexual intercourse 50% have not.
One reason that people enjoy sexual activity is because
it feels nice, good, great. You can feel excited, beautiful,
powerful. You can feel close, and loving. Sex can also be
uncomfortable, disappointing, boring, a chore. At its worst it
can make you feel lonely, sad, unloved and unvalued.
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You have a right to choose not to have sex, or to wait until
you feel really ready.
People have sex for a range of reasons, including to become
closer, to feel loved, to feel good, to get it over and done with,
to be popular, to fit in, or to rebel. Not all these reasons are
ideal.
If getting someone to love you is your goal, then ask yourself
whether you think that person likes you. If you don’t think they
like you, then they are not going to hang around to love you.
There are lots of different ways to enjoy sexual feelings.
Some people do nothing. Some masturbate (and have been,
off and on, since they were babies). Some people decide to
do some sexual behaviours and not others.
