Ms Underduck Advice Column with Kate Kamoshita

How do you balance work and home schedules?
Yes, the ultimate question. If I or anyone finds the secret, I hope they share it. But in all
seriousness, this is such a universal problem, and unfortunately, there is no easy answer.
However, my best advice is to be kind to yourself! Self-compassion and battling our inner critic
are the easiest ways to fix this, as we are most upset at disappointing people or feeling like
we are drowning. For the practical, routines help, using services (cleaners, assistants, helpers,
professional organizers etc.). How much you can outsource depends greatly, but your time
and sanity are worth much money, too valuable and worth investing in where you can. Lastly,
could you ask for help from friends and loved ones or join a community? It takes a village, and
you can’t do this alone.
What made you suspect you were
neurodivergent? Mainly as a woman since
so much clinical research is centered
around men.
You would be surprised how many people
say they learned from Instagram and Tiktok!
For me personally, I was misdiagnosed with
general anxiety disorder, as many women
like me are, and I also self-medicated with
alcohol (8 years sober, yay). When I first got
happy and excited sober, I realized the
intensity of ADHD excitement and that I
used to drink to make it stop. Without
alcohol to self-medicate, I finally realized it
was hyperactivity, and I told my doctor,
“This can’t just be anxiety, can it?”
As women who are missed in childhood,
figuring out a diagnosis is hard as women
were overlooked and understudied. It
wasn’t until the year 2000 that researchers
finally started to address the way
neurodiversity looks in women.
The good news is that this is changing.
With so many people feeling more open
and sharing their experiences and more
women working on studies and in
psychiatry, hopefully, more women will not
have to wait their whole life for answers.
Have a query for Ms. Underduck?
Please reach out to Kate on her IG at @
https://www.instagram.com/learning.compass/
Email: msunderduck@ourrebelworld.com
You can learn more about Kate at
http://katekamoshita.com/
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