WE ROAR Issue 02 - Flipbook - Page 75
I got so tired of being judged and
ridiculed for not being able to perform
or keep up with the executive tasks of
everyday
life
[work,
home,
relationships] and for feeling like
everything was always my fault that I
just needed to "get it together"
because I was an adult with a
child...but I couldn't just get it together,
not for myself or my son; more
importantly, I didn't know why I
couldn't. I know someone constantly
ridiculed or judged me, so why even
try...but I was trying, and the more I
tried, the more I failed.
I know there are other single black
moms worldwide who are feeling the
same way...YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
I want you to know it is not your
fault...blame it on your brain.
There are strategies that you can
learn...yes, I did say LEARN to help
minimize the misunderstood behaviors
resulting from having ADHD.
I want to help other single black
mothers learn what ADHD is and what
it is NOT. I want to help them
understand how the ADHD brain and
nervous system work in order to
understand their behaviors and their
children's, which often results in being
judged, shamed,
bullied, manipulated, etc., leaving us
feeling guilty, frustrated and even angry.
It is time to STOP the STIGMA of ADHD
and other neurodivergent diagnoses...1
person at a time, one family at a time.
It is also okay NOT to be okay, making it
easier to ask for help; you are not alone
in this struggle but must be willing to tell
your ADHD story.
I encourage you to embrace your unique
differences, trust and believe in yourself,
and stop listening to people who are not
sincerely kind, caring and empathetic.
We need way more understanding and
empathy PLUS less stigmatizing,
judging, and shaming. We need to reset
our mindsets; what we honestly think
about ourselves matters most.
We can't keep hiding behind the "fakeit-til you make it' mask or the twisted
belief that "what goes on in this house
stays in this house"... NO MORE HIDING;
we can't fix what we aren't willing to
face!
ADHD is still not accepted or even
believed
within
our
black
communities...we still have that old
thinking that we have to be the strong
black mother/woman/leader/etc.
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