May/June Heart of Glastonbury - Magazine - Page 55
However, for others they find that when
they re-enter relationship, many of the same
issues arise, such as avoidance or codependency. Both of which they feel feel as
linked to their sexual nature
I’d like to mention my feelings of No Fap and
celibacy, as from my experience of working
with other men, and within my own sexual
energy experience this is a much talked
about topic.
Conscious self pleasure is a form of
meditation, and it can revolutionise our
health and our happiness.
As men, we’ve never been taught the power
of self pleasure. No one ever showed us that
this practice can be used as a wellbeing
practice, a way of creating more mental
clarity, a way of training our sexual energy to
be present during lovemaking.
That it can increases libido , sexual stamina
and general well-being when done correctly.
A big part of my training is teaching men that
art of self pleasure.
in my own work, as I feel that sometimes this
can be like suppressing emotion. I do see
however that once sexual energy flow
through the body is made more conscious. It
tends to lead to more of an abstinence from
excessive
releasing,
which
happens
naturally.
Some of the most unconscious sexual
behaviour I’ve witnessed has come from
men trying to suppress or deny the sexual
Chi. Trying to force something, or having an
absolute rigid set of rules can work for a few
people, but can actually be damaging for
others.
In my experience all positive things happen
when practised with self-love. Sexual
tension, is simply blocked Chi in the body.
The difference between healthy desire and
what has been called before lustful desire.
It’s all a mind game, a matter of tension or
relaxation.
Partly in my training I’m teaching men how
to experience sexual energy with relaxation ,
a calm mind and a relaxed body. This creates
incredible states of well-being, happiness
and clear headedness.
Removing the shadows of guilt and shame,
from what is one of the most pleasurable
experiences that we can have in our body.
Some men expertise a falling away if the
need to that ejaculate, when they learn to
control the thermostat of the energy
system.
The more guilt and shame, or even if we try
and suppress our sexual energy with
willpower alone, for some men, is just like
trying to suppress any e-motion. It tends to
resurface in other often unhealthy ways.
This sexual energy can also be expanded and
allowed to flow through the body from the
base, leading to a more relaxed experience
of sexual Chi.
It creates a construction of chi flow, leading
to tension, anger and sometimes in men,
feelings of discomfort, anger, self hatred and
pressure in the base.
When we allow sexual energy to flow through
all of the energy channels of the body, it can
lead to some of the most incredible
experiences.
I believe that whether we choose to be
celibate, or whether we choose to
occasionally release our sexual energy, for
me it’s all about naturalness without
suppression. What is sometimes called
‘lustful desire’, is simply sexual energy that
I don’t personally advocate forced celibacy
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