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them to chase their next big high, because they
never last, and steel away the sanctity of
presence.
Don’t get me wrong, there are people who
come to our training who have found some of
those practices useful for them, but for the
majority, like myself, it’s just not their thing
and might never be.
We can take our time on this journey, it’s more
about peeling away than adding, noticing
what’s already here instead of what’s over
there, not about going up and out all the time,
but exploring the joy of coming down and in.
It’s okay to honour and understand our
boundaries, instead of being expected to push
through them. So my advice for anyone
entering this world.. trust yourself, don’t let
anyone override you. or guilt you into not
honouring your own truth.
incredible they are when we have one, for
many people trying to heal relationship issues
outside of a relationship, is like trying to learn
to swim on the beach.
The human need for love and connection
maybe the greatest of all our needs and a
relationship can offer that, yet we seem to
receive little or no training about how to
create a good one, how to sustain intimacy and
how to fall more deeply in love with each
other, but this like any other skill, is something
we can learn
The biggest illusion on earth is that good
relationships are meant to just happen, as my
partner often says ‘a good relationship is like
growing a beautiful garden, it needs tending
and care.’
There are so many myths on the relationship
arena, for example when I got together my
partner around 5 years ago, I can’t remember
the amount of well meaning people who told
me I needed time to ‘heal’ before entering my
next long-term relationship. I took it on for
awhile, and delayed things, even though I felt
in my bones that this wasn’t true for me.
Sexual intimacy is also something that doesn't
need to vanish over time, both myself and my
partner endeavour to put half a day aside for
sexual intimacy regularly. This is amazing tto
me because I look back into my early 40s, I like
many men thought I’d lost most of my libido
completely, I’d strayed away from my Tosists
sexual practices for a few years, and I’d even
got to the point where porn wasn’t really doing
it for me.
I didn’t listen to my own knowing, which was
that the quickest and best relationship healing
happens ‘in a relationship.’ With two people
who are dedicated to
healing and growth together, and have the
skills and tools to navigate the crunchy bits
and enhance the beautiful bits.
I presumed that that was that, and there was
always Viagra if I needed it, the times I was
able to get excited, were short-lived with
hypersensitivity. So now in my 50s spending
hours making love, I look back on this journey
and see clearly that there’s nothing wrong with
you if this is you (at any age)
So many of us take the most essential things
for granted, we don’t celebrate our clean
running water every day, our abundance of
food available, and shelter over our heads. Our
human minds tend to be drawn to looking for
danger, what’s missing, what wrong, and so we
might forget to celebrate the beauty of what is
already here.
There’s plenty wrong however with the sexual
education we have been given, at school,
where most of us were given 2 options: the
scientific approach of putting condoms on
broomsticks and being taught about sperm
and eggs, before being sent off to metalwork.
Or even worse, being educated through
performance based porn models. Often
loveless interaction between two actors on
videos that nowadays seem to be straying
further and further into the normalisation of
In the same way we can become blasé about
our relationship, not noticing how sacred and
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