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FEELING
ANGRY?
Anger is a perfectly normal healthy
emotion. Everybody has different triggers
and what causes one person to see red
might not bother the next person. Anger
only becomes a problem when it gets out
of control or if expressed in aggressive
and violent ways.
IDENTIFY YOUR
TRIGGERS
Think about where and when you are
more likely to get angry, and see if there is
a pattern. For example do you get angry
with certain people? When stressed?
When drinking or using? At work? Or
behind the wheel?
LISTEN TO YOUR BODY
Anger stimulates the adrenal response
system which is the body’s way of coping,
resulting in the fight or flight response.
You may notice increased heart rate,
tense muscles, increased temperature,
rapid breathing or fist and teeth clenching.
When this happens try to;
▪ Pause and take a deep breath to avoid
reacting straight away.
▪ Breathe in for blue and out for red.
▪ Walk away if you can. You can always
come back and talk when things have
calmed down.
▪ Visualise yourself dealing with the
situation in a calm manner that’s
non-aggressive but assertive.
LOOK WITHIN
Anger is generally the result of other
deeper feelings or emotions. Many men
experience anger due to frustration,
loss/grief, pain, depression/anxiety and
being treated unfairly.
ASK FOR HELP
If you are struggling to manage your anger
there is plenty of support out there. Don’t
leave it too late. If you have ever felt so
furious you have not been able to control
yourself, or if anyone has asked if you
have an anger problem then you probably
do.
Other signs of being affected by anger
could be less obvious and include:
▪ always being irritable, little things make
you angry and that is your main response
to situations
▪ when you’re angry you’re aggressive or
nasty
▪ you may feel depressed and avoid being
around friends or family
▪ you may use drugs or alcohol to make
you feel more relaxed or calm.
