COROMIND ISSUE 18 JUN24 ONLINEVERSION - Flipbook - Page 9
The Journey to Success
and Well-Being
We all have potential; it is human nature. We were designed to
survive, thrive and evolve. But, nowadays, many of us get stuck in
a mindset of ‘stuckness’. How do we move away from it?
at large. Some world leaders make decisions that have horrendous
consequences, and as individuals, we too make decisions that
have negative impacts, albeit on a smaller scale.
Coromind has had the pleasure of featuring potential developer
Dave Burton since our 昀椀rst issue. Dave is a personal and executive
coach and mentor who supports leadership and organisational
development. He understands where you or your company are
and provides insight on where to go next or what obstacles might
hinder your success.
And how do we break free? We let go! We let go of negative and
restricting beliefs, viewpoints, and preconceptions, along with
greed and ego. This is not always easy, as it requires discipline
and a preparedness to be wrong and face the consequences of
having done things which have caused damage – or not having
done things that could have prevented damage.
To celebrate this collaboration, we asked Dave to share some
insights on success and how we can live our best lives.
What advice would you give about balancing ambition
with well-being in the pursuit of success?
You’ve written about Eldership and the invaluable
wisdom older generations bring. Please share your
thoughts on how modern communities can better
integrate and honour this wisdom in our fast-paced
world.
Listen to yourself. Are you pursuing pleasure, wealth, recognition
and fame? Or are you committed to your ful昀椀lment as a human
being, becoming fully who you are and contributing to those
around you?
Our 昀椀rst responsibility as elders is to let our community know we
exist, are relevant, and can be of use. We need to demonstrate (not
ponti昀椀cate) that we stand for a better future and don’t just want
to recreate the past. In my case, I stand for a future that sustains
our lives and our planet, reduces war, greed, and extremism, and
allows people to 昀氀ourish as who they are.
And the community’s responsibility? To respect the experience
we o昀昀er. I am concerned that we don’t always make this easy as
we can come across as knowing it all, but then so can younger
people. The solution I see to this is that we all have to listen to
each other, to understand our di昀昀erent perspectives rather than
defend them.
What are some common ‘stuckness’ mindsets you
encounter, and what initial steps do you recommend for
individuals looking to break free from these patterns?
The 昀椀rst ‘stuck mindset’ shows up in statements like “I don’t
have time to do this” or “This will never change”. I help people
understand that these are just mindsets and can be altered. The
results can be amazing. Once people make time to change their
situation, they get a double bene昀椀t: things start to improve and
the person feels better for having reclaimed some sense of control
or self-determination.
The second is almost the opposite. It’s the “I can do what I like
with no consequences”’ mindset, often with an incorporated
ignorance of, or disdain for, the consequences of their actions.
Pointing out these consequences can help. This applies to
individuals, organisations, societies, communities and the world
Coromind admires the way you live your craft, Dave;
a professionally active senior eager to learn. How do
you maintain such proactiveness? What impact do you
believe it has on your personal and professional life?
Thank you. I keep in touch with thought leaders, like-minded
people and di昀昀erently-minded people. I re昀氀ect on what I hear and
experience. I question myself continually. I do my best to hold
what I know graciously, and o昀昀er it to others rather than push
it on to them. I recognise that we each have a unique experience
of life, and I cling doggedly to the view that at any point in time,
we’re all doing our best with the resources we have available to
us. Sometimes those resources are enough to meet the challenges
we face, and sometimes they’re not, but either way, we do the best
we can in the moment.
And these actions and beliefs make my life ful昀椀lling, rewarding
and endlessly challenging. I wouldn’t want it any other way!
Get in touch with Dave at www.potential.co.nz
Words by
Dave Burton
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