The Inner Critic - Flipbook - Page 44
SUMMARY AND CONCLUSION
What I really hope from this guide is that, if nothing else, you will have increased your awareness of
your own Inner Critic.
Although it may appear to be annoying, unhelpful or even cruel, it is actually trying to protect in its own
way. From its perspective, it does an excellent job if it can keep you safe. That is what it is there for.
If you want to shift the power of this relationship, then my strongest recommendation is not to banish
it but to befriend it and help care for the part that it is protecting. It will then soften, melt even. It may
just let go!
Find a way to develop a healthier relationship with it.
Although each of the ideas here are presented in a linear fashion, they do not necessarily lend
themselves to a sequential step by step approach. When it comes to befriending the critic, it is easier
to do this from a place of centre, from being open and present to what is, suspending judgement and
inviting curiosity. Perhaps then, see what comes up and where the process takes you.
Finally know this. Carl Jung, an eminent Swiss Psychologist, (1875- 1961) observed in his work that;
‘What we resist not only persists, but will grow in size’.
Too often we try to eliminate what we don’t like. We use antagonistic, even violent language towards
situations, people, qualities that we have negative value judgements around.
Stop resisting. Embrace, be open, be curious, be brave. Give it some space. You might nd that you
enjoy what you come to learn about yourself.
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